*Warning: The majority of this blog post does not contain any real information, but expresses my frustrations on the subject.
Fairly recently, I became single for the first time since I was 15. Needless to say, back when I was ‘dating’, the style was totally different because it was 2006…and I was a sophomore in high school.
Now it’s a completely different ball game.
When I was in a relationship I wore what I liked wearing because I didn’t have to impress anyone but myself. Sure I wanted to look cute and garner a few compliments from my girlfriends, but hotness was never a real factor that I considered necessary when I was getting ready.
See that? I still can’t comprehend that. So this is my dilemma right now. What is single girl style? How do you pull it off without looking like a slut muffin? And how much do you have to sacrifice your personal style to impress guys?
There are a lot of slutty girls out there. Want to know how I know this? Because they dress like it. I understand that everyone has varying degrees of appropriateness and being single, that degree is fairly low. Sometimes when I go to a bar, I look around and I feel like I just ran into the girls from Jersey Shore and wonder, “How did they end up in Texas? Did they get lost on their way to Las Vegas?”
And I know that not everyone dresses exactly like that, but today in America the single girl uniform is fairly simple.
Single Girl Uniform
Simple and effective, but not right for everyone. The types of guys that are attracted to this are usually not type of guys you want to talk to. So what’s the right combination? So far this is the advice I’ve gathered from men, women, and magazines (which are written by women).
“Guys like simple.”
“Wear a big necklace it’ll draw attention to your cleavage.”
“Don’t look like you’re trying too hard.”
“Can you walk in 5 inch heels?”
“Look cute, but still sexy. But not too sexy, but enough so that they know you’re single.”
“Just wear something low-cut.”
“Why is everything you own so flowy?”
And that’s how I feel after hearing all the advice, reading different articles, buying new clothes, and trying to be something that I’m not. It’s a really strange feeling to be alone after being with someone for so long and it’s even more strange that I feel like I can’t dress like myself when I go out to meet people.
SGS (Single Girl Swag)
The most important thing to have when you go out, besides heels (which I will say, are a complete must and add to SGS), is single girl swag. It’s when you feel great in what you’re wearing so it translates to confidence, which is truly the sexiest thing a girl can have when she’s going out. If you are feeling good, it doesn’t really matter what you’re wearing, you will get some attention because of the energy you are giving off. So here are some of my tips for going out. I’m sure after this blog post you will take my advice, because obviously I know what I’m talking about.
Smile, brush your teeth.
Wear heels, it doesn’t matter what size heel because you will always feel sexier (and the oomph in the back doesn’t hurt either).
Wear something you feel comfortable in. Tugging at your shirt or pulling up your low-rise jeans isn’t sexy.
Don’t wear any rings on your ‘ring finger’, even if they are in no way like a wedding ring, guys apparently notice.
Wear tight jeans or a tight skirt.
Shave your legs.
Bring out lipstick, your phone, and a sense of humor. Don’t take the night too seriously.
Be your own damn self. Stop trying to dress for others or for the venue you’re going. Just do yo’ thang and rock the single girl swag.
Carrie Bradshaw and Holly Golightly, ultimate SGS.